Growth & Development Unit -7

A study about babies' brain waves being in sync with parents

More info about baby's brains being in sync with parent's brains and baby talk and nursery rhymes

More info about baby's brains being in sync with parent's brains and baby talk and nursery rhymes

One thing that's gets to me is that there are so many resources to give insights and perspectives on raising good kids from researchers who do science, and many people just ignore them.

People use to think you could let little kids "cry it out." This is the only way a child can communicate distress. It may make you have a hard time, but it's only because the child IS having a hard time. For most of history, human children almost never didn't have someone from the village (parent, sibling, grandparent, cousin, village member, etc...) right there to hold them and help them.

H.F. Harlow's research into relationship between child & mother: infant Rhesus monkey cuddling w. terry cloth-covered artificial mother (with nursing bottle at breast level) in preference to plain wired dummy (L) at University of Wisconsin's Primate Lab.  (Photo by Nina Leen//Time Life Pictures/Getty Images)

The Famous Harry Harlow Monkey Experiments. They seem to show proof that early care and warmth (love) is what kids need for bonding, security, and the ability to lead healthy emotional lives.

See how important the early years are. Easily the most formative and important.

Statistics on foster children show how detrimental it is for young kids to not have stable loving parents. I wrote this note as a documentation of a time I asked Mr. Prum why a student was acting up in class?

This reminds me of some younger people I have been around, especially my sister: she use to think my mother didn't know anything until she had kids and started calling my mom all the time.

My daughter reading alone: age 5.

Here's some more stuff on reading and speaking to kids: Researchers found that when mothers frequently spoke to their infants, their children learned almost 300 more words by age 2 than did their peers whose mothers rarely spoke to them. Huttenlocher et al., 1991. Early vocabulary growth: Relation to language input and gender. Developmental Psychology, 27, 236-248.

Reading aloud to young children is not only one of the best activities to stimulate language and cognitive skills; it also builds motivation, curiosity, and memory. Bardige, B. Talk to Me, Baby!(2009), Paul H Brookes Pub Co.

Having books in the home is twice as important as the father’s education level. Research in Social Stratification and Mobility, 2010

and there's a lot more at: https://ferstreaders.org/resources/fifty-top-literacy-statistics

You're going to change a lot in college...A LOT. It's been said that you change as much in the 4 years of college as much as you do in the 4 years in H.S. I would agree.

Types of parenting styles and success rates seen on average with each one.


Kids want to do what their parents do. My daughter wanted to help me cook. Research seems to show that even though having her helps slows me down, if you let your kids help and give them positive reinforcement for helping, rather than shoo them away, they will develop an appreciation and attitude oriented toward helping as they develop.

Kids go through an egotistical period when they are very self absorbed. This is Jean Piaget's "Preoperational Stage" from ages 2-7 or so. Here is my daughter crying at age 4 because my wife just explained to her that daddy gets to open his own birthday presents

The Attachment Styles largely credited to John Bowlby and Mary Ainsworth

This section has some pictures dealing with Elisabeth Kubler-Ross' 5 Stages of Grief

I really like this and it's something a lot of people get wrong about the 5 Stages

This shows the added stages of Shock and Experimentation, but looking at this it's easy to think they "should" go in some order when you can bounce around some.

It's important to remember that there is no "timeline" in which you are suppose to go through the stages and get better.

The famous "5 Stages of Grief" applied to doing homework. I bet a lot of you have been there, I have too.

Things Dying people regret. Of course we're all different and different people can regret different things